There are certain values, which when inculcated, will surely lead a person into a successful relationship. So what are these values? This article is dedicated to answering this very question.
Important Values in Marriage
Marriage is considered as the most sacred institution of our lives. It is a pillar on which today’s society resides, and this has been the case since the dawn of human history. Sadly, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. It does have a few (if not many) flaws. But those marriages that do work are based on certain values.
Honesty Much has been said and written about honesty, and it is one of the most important values in a relationship. It is a base on which all other values stand. But does honesty mean that you should simply acknowledge your mistake to your partner? The answer is no. Not only should you accept your mistake in front of your partner, but you should accept a mistake to yourself, and admit that you are not perfect. But the road does not end there. There should be a real effort to improve yourself and not commit the same mistake again, ever.
EqualityEvery wife feels that her husband does not treat her equally. Most often than not, this is actually what is happening. Most marriages end up in divorce because one of the partners does not think of his or her spouse as an equal. Husbands often think that children are the responsibility of the wives, and wives often think that it is a husband’s job to be the bread-winner of the family. Unless and until you don’t start thinking of your significant other as an equal to you in all aspects, you will have problems in your marriage. Sharing every responsibility equally is the foremost commandment of every marriage.
CommitmentThis is the most important value in any marriage. When you are committed, only to your spouse, then only can you call yourselves truly married. And if you are not committed to your partner, then what’s the point of your marriage? You are being dishonest, not only to your partner, but also to yourself.
Important Values in Life
RespectIf you don’t respect a person, then you wouldn’t notice his good qualities. Respect is one of the most important values in a healthy relationship, in that regard. It is such a value in life, which only increases when you give it to others. You simply cannot expect anyone to respect you or your point of view, if you would not do the same to them.
UnderstandingUnderstanding is the second most important value in life. To give you a common example, many times, a person knowingly commits a mistake. This could be because he does not have any other choice and has a good reason for committing that mistake. Yet, he comes and confesses that mistake. You should try to understand his mistake and the reason for which he committed that mistake. Holding a grudge permanently is only going to cause you anguish, and also to the person in front of you as well. Understanding and letting go is the mantra for having a peaceful mind.
Discipline Everyone has many duties in life, which they have to shoulder. You have duties towards your parents, as they have brought you up. You have duties towards your siblings, as you grew up with them. You have duties towards your employers, as they are responsible for your livelihood. The only way to shoulder these responsibilities is to be disciplined in your effort. It is a common notion that being disciplined, is to do your work in a routine fashion. But it is not so. Discipline is following the ideal rules of conduct and duties that I mentioned can only be fulfilled through ones self moral code of conduct.
The values in the above illustration are not only important values in a relationship, but they are important values in society as well. To be successful in any relationship, the mentioned values need to be adhered to and practiced.