• How to Change a Child’s Last Name

    Strange as it may sound, there do exist a few reasons where you might decide to change your child’s last name. The most common reason is, of course, divorce. If you and your spouse are getting a divorce, and it is decided that the child is going to live with you, i.e. you are getting the child’s custody, you may want to change your child’s last name to your maiden name. Another scenario is where a child was born before marriage. A child born before marriage is said to be born out-of-wedlock. In this case too, you may want to change your child’s last name. Usually, when a child is born out-of-wedlock, the child gets the mother’s surname. However, if the parents marry after the birth of their child, the child’s last name can be changed to the father’s surname.

    Fortunately, there are simple ways to change your child’s last name, regardless of the situation you are in. The process is a legal one, however, and certain rules need to be followed, and forms need to be filled. Given below is more information on how to go about changing a child’s last name, in case you need to do so.

    Changing a Child’s Last NameObviously, a child cannot change his own surname officially or legally because he is not old enough to do so. Changing a child’s name can be done by a family law attorney. Changing your child’s last name doesn’t cost you a lot of money, but there will be some fees involved, depending which state you live in. Follow the given steps and you will not find changing your child’s last name very difficult.

    1. You will need to petition the court for changing the name of your child. There will be forms to fill, and in most states you can fill out these forms yourself. You will require the legal aid of a lawyer, and you will have to notify the child’s father that you are going to change the last name of the child. After you have filled the forms and shown consent (of the father), the court will decide if the child’s last name should be changed. The court takes into account the best interest of the concerned child before making any decisions.
    2. Usually while getting a divorce, a woman reverts back to using her maiden name. If she has a child, and has won custody of the child, she can file a petition to have the last name of the child changed to her maiden name as well. The courts usually grant the petition, but will also consider the father’s relationship with the child. In this case as well, the father has to be informed that the name of the child is going to be changed, and should be agreeable to the change.
    3. Once you have petitioned the court for a legal name change, you have to wait for the court to decide if it is appropriate for the child’s last name to be changed. Once the court approves – you will get a court order signifying approval – you will have to publicly declare that the child’s last name has been changed. This is usually done by publishing the name change in the newspaper. Taking help and advice from a lawyer will ensure that you do not face any trouble with this step.
    4. Once this step is complete, you will get the final decree from the court confirming and authorizing the name change of your child. This means your child’s last name has been legally changed. You will still, however, need to change the child’s last name on other documents separately.

    A Few Points to Remember While the above steps may seem simple, there are a few points to remember when it comes to changing a child’s last name. These include:

    • Forms will have to be filled, and such forms will have to be filled in the presence of a notary.
    • You will need to pay a fee for changing the last name of your child. The fee varies from state to state, and can be as low as $50 or as high as $150.
    • The process can take anywhere from 30 to 60 days for getting approved, so you will have to plan accordingly.
    • Once the court approves the name change, it is up to you to get your child’s name changed on other documents. These include the Social Security card, birth certificate (though some states do not allow you to do this) etc. There are forms that have to be filled for this as well.

    Besides divorce, you may want to change a child’s last name if you are adopting the child. The process remains the same for changing the last name of the child, and the required forms will have to be filled.

    Remember that changing a child’s last name does not change any obligations of the father. If child support is due, it will continue to be due even after the name of the child has been changed. Also remember, that it is compulsory that the father is informed and agrees to the name change. If the father (or other parent) does not agree, then is it very difficult to change the last name of a child. Also, most courts will not agree to change the first name of a child, unless you can prove a very strong and valid reason for doing so.

    You should note that how to change a child’s last name is not the all important question. Keep in mind that while changing the last name of a child is not as difficult as it seems, it should be done only after careful deliberation. Changing child’s last name is not merely a name change; it is the process by which the child gets a new identity, a new name to carry for a lifetime.


  • Game On is Game Over


    As of April 5th, TWIT.TV’s experimental gaming show hosted by Veronica Belmont and Brian Brushwood has officially been cancelled.  The shows fate was first revealed via Twitter from the gameon and Veronica Belmont  Twitter feeds. Twit founder Leo Laporte answered queries about the shows demise throughout the day on his TWIT.TV network stressing that it was not the content but rather the profitability that brought about decision.

    As is policy for any new TWIT programming, shows have 12 weeks to meet their viewership goals or risk cancellation.  While Game On! had strong numbers with an average of 27000 viewers per episode it was unable to meet the 50,000 viewers necessary to make it profitable.

    In response to multiple queries from the chat room (which is omnipresent in all TWIT.TV productions) before recording his Before you Buy podcast Leo Laporte responded with the following when questioned about the show’s cancellation.

    "We lost more money in one week than in a year of any other show"  He later explained that the "cost per episode was $7000" for talent and production costs.  Laporte also commented that TWIT had "lost $100,000" on the show.

    When questioned about the reasons he believed it failed, Laporte’s response was:"We didn’t do a good job of promoting it."  He also went on to postulate that the gaming podcast market was already saturated with little opportunity for a new podcast to be profitable. 

    The 13th and final episode airs on TWIT.TV on Sunday April 8th with Al Lowe of Leisure Suit Larry fame the guest.


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  • Pattern of Pain: Withholding

    The most common form of withholding is what we commonly call “the silent treatment,” but withholding encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings. It also includes an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.

    No one deserves to be subjected to withholding. Feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, and to not know why, is a terrible feeling. The first thing to remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else’s pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what they learned when she or he was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that the withholder is acting out of pain. They are stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people they love. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space. Take some time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. If you are dealing with people in a family situation, you can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern.

    If, on the other hand, it is you that tends to withhold, understand that this is a learned response and it can be unlearned. Find safe places to begin to express all that you’ve been holding back. Begin to make an effort to say what you’re feeling and thinking. Give praise to someone you love. The more you do this, the healthier you and your relationships will become. What was learned over a course of a life cannot be changed overnight–remember, one day at a time.

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  • What every Husband should know about a Womans need for Girlfriends

    Husbands that do not understand a woman’s need for girlfriends and companionship are being grossly shortsighted. Many times as a therapist, these are the same husbands that frequent the tailgate at football games, fishing trips with buddies, and weekend golf outings. All of us need time with our gender, and a release time. History has always discussed the groups with women as well as men. It may be quilting groups in the eighteen hundreds, or shopping excursions in this decade. Women are in need of their female counterparts, to disclose, ask for advice, share, and bond. Not unlike men, and it is very healthy for women to do so.

    There is an inherent bonding that is important, and necessary for mental health. Women have raised their children, told their stories and carried on traditions at a more consistent pace than men. Part of this consistency is the mother daughter bond, as well as having girlfriends, to unwind and brainstorm with. A marriage where there is a lack of respectful independence is a marriage fraught with jealousy, and fear. Men that have issues with their wives spending time with girlfriends need to seek out therapy and focus on their own issues. An addendum is imperative here. When time with girlfriends is so extensive that it takes time from family, children and upkeep then there should be concern.

    We all encounter stress at home and the workplace. There is nothing better than time spent unwinding, relaxing, laughing, and even spending hobby time with your own gender. It is imperative for life to socialize,and bond. As humans we are social animals, there is no mistaking that fact. Socialization, and conversation with our own gender decreases stress, gives support, empowers, influences laughter, and helps problem solving.

    As therapists it is important that we not only encourage time with girlfriends, but explain to their husbands the necessity and how this is a win, win for everyone. There are in fact numerous times where husbands fears are actually projective in nature. Projection, in the sense that husbands are aware what they discuss with their peers and are worried there will be disclosure of dissatisfaction with the marriage. This is indicative once again how good communication and resolution can benefit the marriage and girlfriend time can occur without a problem.

    Time with girlfriends is normal, healthy and imperative. Combined with open communication it is an important adjunct in any marriage. Husbands need to confront their hypocrisy head on, and accept the importance of this bonding scenario. In the end it is nothing more than a necessary ritual of socialization, that occurs with every culture across the world.



  • Divorce Decree – How to Retrieve?

    Really the key documents in Public Divorce Records are the Divorce Decrees. By the time these records come into being, it is already a done deal for the couple involved, the romance would have been long time dead. What truly matters anymore is the bearing of it on the separating couple in terms of down-to-earth matters like asset division, alimony and children rights and responsibilities.

    Divorce decrees are contained in the divorce records which are archived in vital record repositories. These are usually situated at the statistic or public record office of the state or county where the proceeding was conducted. Besides the basic information pertaining to the divorce such as filing number, names, date, place and grounds and type of divorce, it is to principally state the settlement ruling of the separation.

    The primary issues that are to be addressed are asset division, alimony and, where there are children, matters of their custody, support and visitation. This applies to all divorces, contested or uncontested and fault or no-fault. However, like other court rulings, decrees can be contested or appealed. That said, the wise approach is to work out the settlement as amicably as possible between the divorcing parties. After all, there would have been enough differences and conflicts already by that stage of the relationship.

    A common mistaken notion about divorce decrees is that since it sorts out the disposition of joint assets and children, it implicitly takes care of joint liability and exposure to contracts and agreements taken as a couple before the termination of the marriage. The fact is these decrees do not deem to overturn any joint contracts as long as they have been made in line with the law and free of fraud. People often get burned by outstanding financial obligations like loans, mortgages, installments and other forms of debt as a result of the delinquency of an ex-spouse, as if they have not suffered enough at their hands.

    More information and guide on Free Divorce Decrees and related Public Divorce Records are found at http://gov-record.org/divorce-records

  • What Rights Do You Have If Your Wages Are Being Garnished?

    Contrary to what most people think, there are wage garnishment rights that you may be entitled to. Just because your wages have been garnished does not mean you have no recourse. Certain debts are not eligible for the minimum disposable income rules but others are.

    Wage Garnishment Rights Exceptions

    Wages cannot be garnished by a creditor without first obtaining a court order. In order for a creditor to successfully garnish wages, they would have to file a suit in court and have the garnishment approved by the court. However, there are exceptions to these rules which may impact wage garnishment rights. Here are some instances where a creditor does not have to go to court first:

    A) Child support payments – In many cases, when a court orders child support payments, they will automatically contact an employer to place a wage garnishment. There is no requirement that a separate request for garnishment be filed;

    B) Federal or state tax payments – The Department of Labor states that if you fail to pay taxes that your wages can be garnished. The rules for these types of garnishing are extremely flexible. State or federal taxing authorities are not required to request a court ruling to garnish wages. In fact, notification processes are flexible as well – the requirement is that the person who is facing garnished wages be notified at their last address by certified or registered mail. The mail does not have to be accepted in order for the debtor to be considered notified;

    C) Court judgments – Judgments that are placed against a debtor can only garnish a certain percentage of wages. In most cases, this limit is 25% of disposable income. This does not apply to child support nor does it apply to any judgment that is placed as a result of a fraudulent transaction or action.

    Understanding Wage Garnishment Laws

    Under federal and state wage garnishment laws, your rights are protected as follows

    Wages can be garnished in line with the federal (or state) regulations that are most beneficial to you; An employer cannot fire you due to a first wage garnishment (but may for subsequent garnishments); You may file a request in court to have the wage garnishment order reviewed; Garnishment orders cannot eliminate your total income; Generally garnishment may impact no more than 25 percent of your wages.

    There are some amounts that are excluded under wage garnishment rules including income that is deducted from your paycheck by your employer that is mandatory (for example, taxes and mandatory insurance, etc.). If your income is not fixed (that is your paycheck fluctuates from week to week) the amount held for any given week cannot exceed the allowable amounts. This is important especially for people who work based on piece work or commissions.

    Some debts that result in wage garnishments are not required to follow the preliminary laws meaning the creditor does not have to obtain court approval to secure a wage garnishment order. Some of these debts include:

    Child support payments; Federal or state tax debts; Debts that are incurred as a result of fraud

    There are labor laws in place that help protect wage garnishment rights for both employees and those who are self employed. It is critical that if you are notified of a wage garnishment that you seek competent assistance. There may be valid reasons for having a wage garnishment reduced or removed, but you can only take advantage of this if you knw your wage garnishment rights.


  • Workers Comp Form WC-100: What Is It All About? (Settlement)

    What is a settlement?

    A settlement is defined in legal circles is a mutually agreed upon agreement between two disputing parties which can be reached either before, during, or after the court action has occurred. However it does have other meanings where the law and trials are concerned. In workers comp cases, a settlement is compensation for lost wages, medical care, and even death benefits for survivors that are necessitated by virtue of an on-the-job injury. Typically, these benefits come in three primary types of benefits:

    PPD or Permanent Partial Disability; TPD or Temporary Partial Disability; TTD or Temporary Total Disability

    Additionally, you are entitled to medical care and treatment at the expense of your employer and in some instances, should you die from an accident and injury on the job, your dependent spouse and children may receive benefits as well.

    Settlements in workers comp cases

    In order to file workers compensation claims, as well as requesting a hearing or mediation when your employer or their insurer refutes the claim, you need to complete and file a Form WC-14 (“Notice of Claim/Request for Hearing/Request for Mediation”). However, an additional form regarding filing for a settlement is required. This is a Form WC-100 which is entitled “Request for Settlement Mediation” and is typically filed when the possibility of an agreed upon settlement is the next step.

    What issues can be mediated at a worker’s compensation hearing?

    There are 6 key issues that can typically be mediated whenever your workers compensation claim has been denied and you have filed for a hearing or mediation. Quoting the Georgia Workers Compensation website these include:

    Settlement conferences where all parties are agreeable to Board assistance with settlement negotiations; Medical issues including change of physician and payment of bills which involve a compensable medical condition; Suitable light-duty employment issues and suspension of benefits; Rehabilitation issues and disputes in compensable cases which have been designated catastrophic; After a case has been settled, attorney fee liens and disputes involving the reasonable value of services rendered; Determination of the correct average weekly wage”

    If you need further assistance with filing your workers compensation claim or have any questions regarding the filing process and what can ensue, please contact us and discuss your circumstances with an experienced workers compensation attorney. We are here to help you and can see that you receive the benefits that you deserve.


  • Georgia Automobile Insurance Laws

    The state of Georgia has some specific laws and regulations relating to automobile insurance. These have been developed keeping in mind all the problems that might be faced by motorists involved in an accident or any other automobile-related problems.

    Georgia provides uninsured motorist coverage to those who cannot get insurance. Also, some insurance companies do not provide coverage in certain situations and so the money cannot be recovered from these companies even when the individual buys an insurance policy from such companies. The uninsured motorist coverage law takes care of such individuals. However, only those individuals who are able to prove that the insurance company is not covering the loss are eligible for this coverage. As with any other law, this law, too, has some exceptions that have been put into use by the judges.

    The state of Georgia guarantees all insured citizens the right to be reimbursed for all the damages caused by the owner of an uninsured vehicle. All damages, be they property damage, personal injury or even wrongful death, that might have occurred as a result of the accident can be recovered from the uninsured party as per the automobile laws in Georgia. Another interesting law that has been passed by the state of Georgia ensures that in the event an accident involves two federal employees, the amount to be reimbursed can be deducted from the liability insurance up to a certain limit. This is when the subrogation liens provided by the federal government are counted as part of the reimbursement amount calculation. The insurance company would cover the rest of the amount to make up for the whole reimbursement cost.

    Georgia motorist laws sometimes allow the guilty party to come up with the reimbursement amount. However, as with all the other laws, there can be certain exceptions to this also. The party wishing to stack all the insurance coverage must be eligible to do the same. Such stacking is possible only when both the automobiles involved in the accident are insured. When one of them is uninsured, then that party is not eligible to stack the insurance coverage and take care of the injured party. Also, all of them must be insured only under one person’s name, and being a part of another’s policy does not count.

    Last but not least, Georgia has a law which states that, if the defendant motorist cannot be located or traced, and is also uninsured, then the injured party can move for a service by publication on the other party. In such instances, the absconding motorist’s vehicle becomes liable under the uninsured motorist statute as well as under the contract of the insured party.

    The state of Georgia also has a number of laws concerning the common carriers such as the trucks and containers. When involved with an automobile accident, the best option would be to track down a good lawyer specializing in this field to help out with the case.

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  • Adultery & Divorce in New Jersey

    The law of New Jersey permits one to represent oneself in the court in any legal case including divorce. Often people choose to represent themselves but they don’t realize one thing that a divorce lawyer knows better about the legal proceeding than a layman. A good divorce attorney will suggest various ways by which the various grounds of divorce can be proved in the court. For instance, in case of adultery if you hire an experienced family lawyer he will help you collect the evidence for the adultery committed by your spouse. Experienced lawyers have contacts with private detectives, who more often deal with such matters. Such detectives can appear as witness in the court to help you.

    The grounds for divorce are almost same in all states of America but laws related to each of these is slightly different. In New Jersey the grounds for divorce are






    Deviant sexual conduct


    In this section we will be focusing more on adultery and matters related to it. As per the law of this state adultery is considered when a married person (irrespective of the gender) gets engaged in sexual intercourse with someone who is not his/her spouse. The case of adultery must be filed with the local police and then one can hire a lawyer to deal with the matter.

    If someone has committed adultery, then it has to be proved in the court based on circumstantial evidence. People who file for such case must take the help of legal associates. People express their love for each other by hugging, kissing and holding hands. This can be an evidence for an adulterous disposition. To prove adultery, one must show the evidence of “disposition and opportunity” by his/her spouse to have committed the adultery. For instance, take a case where the suspect entered the paramour’s apartment at 11 p.m. and came out at 8 a.m., they were alone for quite a long time. But, you must remember one thing that you have to prove this and as mere speculation will not be considered as a ground for adultery. In such a situation it is better to know the details from experienced divorce lawyers, as they will help you better.

    Penalty for adulterers in New Jersey

    The penalties for people who commit adultery are same in every state of America. As per the law of New Jersey, if a person is found to commit adultery, then he/she can be imprisoned and can even be asked to pay a fine. If the adultery has impacted the children, then the custodial impact of it will be worse. Adultery does not affect the alimony amount in New Jersey but it can be considered if the crime has affected the family in any manner.


  • Day care owner indicted; Baby boy allegedly assaulted.

    GRAFTON – A South Grafton home day care owner has been accused of assaulting a baby boy in her care.

    April Grandinetti, 38, of 22 Maple Ave. was bodily harm The medical idea of (grievous) bodily harm is more specific than legal ideas of assault or violence in general, and distinct from property damage.

    It refers to lasting harm done to the body, human or otherwise, although in its legal sense it is exclusively defined as lasting  and assault and battery with substantial injuries by a Worcester County grand jury, arson arson, at common law, the malicious and willful burning of the house of another. Originally, it was an offense against the security of habitation rather than against property rights.  that day.

    Emergency personnel examined the baby and quickly took him by ambulance to UMass Memorial Medical Center – University Campus in Worcester.

    UMass Child Protection Program doctors said the baby’s injuries were severe and had been inflicted, and that they were not accidental. The child was bleeding around his brain and eyes, and had a

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